Relationship Tip

Someone wrote in and asked what to do when a person’s partner is pulling away. I think the first thing to do is recognize that it is happening and ask your partner about it. Simply ask what they need from you. Would they prefer to talk or to have their space and then, honor whatever they say. During the time that follows, be as positive in the relationship as you are able.  Generally, when someone starts to pull away it could be for a variety of reasons---it may be something to do with your relationship but it may not be related to you at all. You need to create a place where your partner can feel safe, loved, cherished, important, respected, and appreciated in spite of whatever insecurity you may be feeling. Don’t add to whatever the problem is by displaying needy behavior. This will only exacerbate the problem. Look at what you are doing and ask yourself the question, “Would I want to move closer to the person I am being right now?” If the answer is no, then change your behavior.

This is not a guarantee that things will work out. There are situations where one person, for whatever reason, decides he or she needs to be out of their current relationship. If this is the case, you will survive this much better if you give up your resistance to what is. There may be something even better in store for you if you maintain a positive attitude. This is where the expression, “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened” comes into play. Be appreciative for the time you did have and know that there is more for you on the horizon. Respect yourself! Don’t beg or otherwise attempt to coerce someone to stay in a relationship with you who has obviously decided to move on. Let be what will be and look ahead to a better day. If you need help with this, see a counselor or hire a relationship coach.

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Comments

[caribbean girls]

That's why I'm trying to figure out how to see imperfect relationship still working..lol

[Modern Man]

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