Relationship Bridge Building

The Law of Attraction

This week during a coaching session, I was reminded of the pain one experiences at the loss of an important relationship.

My client was involved in a fairly new relationship with a man. This man was very clear from the beginning that he required a lot of space and wasn’t looking for a serious relationship.

My client, who has been focusing on her spiritual growth, was fine with providing him the space he needed. She had no hard feelings when he didn’t come around as often as she’d like. She was trusting of her own worth in the relationship.

Recently, he was requiring even more space than usual. My client began to doubt herself and the relationship. Next thing she knows, he is breaking up with her.

The question I have from a spiritual place is did she catch a vibe and feel he was pulling away from her or did her doubt trigger the death of the relationship? What do you think?

Be in the Moment

What do you think of the concept that time really doesn’t exist, except in the minds of man who constructed the artificial concept? Anyone who has read self-help books must surely have come across the concept of “being in the moment”—not regretting the past or worrying about the future—simply being totally and completely present in the space you are in at that moment in time.

Are you like that in your relationships? I believe it is extremely important to stay grounded in the present moment in our relationships. If we get caught up in the past, we may be comparing our current love interest to others from our history, either positively or negatively. If we are worrying about the future, we are probably fretting over whether this person could be “The One”—our forever soul mate.

While engaging in either past or future thoughts, we are completely missing what is happening right now. What if this moment is all we have? What if something totally unexpected takes us from our life as we know it, do we want to spend our last moment in regrets over the past or worries about the future?

Is it really fair to the person with whom we are involved not to give them our best in the moment? If you stay fully present to the moment, there will be no room for jealousy, nagging about things not done, worrying about bills not paid, preoccupation with work, worry about children and any host of over things.

Let’s try to be present in all of our moments, but especially when we are with the ones the love. They deserve our complete attention and appreciation for the moment being shared. Do you have any thoughts or comments you’d like to share? Please click on the comment link below and tell me what you are thinking.